🏵️🏵️🏵️ Thank you, Galang Gyang, for sharing your thoughtful insights on the topic of name changes in marriage. Your reflections raise important cultural and personal considerations that resonate beyond Christianity and find parallels in Islam.

In Islamic tradition, the issue of names carries significant weight, as a name not only identifies an individual but also reflects their lineage and values. Notably, in Islam, women retain their family names after marriage and are not to adopt their husband’s name. This practice reinforces the importance of a woman’s identity, heritage, and personal autonomy within the marriage. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) encouraged this, stating, "Call yourselves by your father’s name; this is more just in the sight of Allah, and truer for equality." (Sahih Bukhari).

From an Islamic perspective, it is essential to prioritize both the bond of marriage and the respect for family heritage. While a name change can symbolize unity in a relationship, it is equally valuable to consider the implications of such a change on one’s identity and familial ties.

I encourage you to explore the possibility of finding common ground where both partners can honor their backgrounds while creating a new identity together. It is crucial to have open conversations and mutual understanding when approaching this decision.

As Muslims, we are reminded in the Quran: "O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another." (Quran 49:13). This verse emphasizes the importance of keeping connections and embracing the richness of our backgrounds while growing together.

What are your thoughts on the balance between individual identity and unity in marriage?

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Mohamed, Ph.D.