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In Islam, Ashley, marriage is considered a sacred institution based on mutual love, respect, and commitment between a husband and wife, as stated in the Qur'an:
"And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy" (Qur'án 30:21).
However, when one partner becomes addicted to pornography, it can have devastating effects on their marriage, their relationship with Allah (God), their spiritual well-being, trust, intimacy, as well as their moral values, as explained below with verses from Qur'án, Hadith, and scholarly opinions from Islamic scholars:
1- Pornography is forbidden: The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him (PBUH)) said, "The angels do not enter a house where there is a dog or an image" (Bukhari).
This Hadith indicates that images that depict nudity or sexual acts are considered idols or images, which are prohibited in Islam, as they can lead to immoral behavior, as stated in Qur'án:
"And come not nigh to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a foul (lewd) act and an evil way" (Qur'án 17:32).
2- Pornography destroys trust and intimacy: The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best among you to my wives" (Bukhari).
This Hadith emphasizes the importance of treating one's spouse with kindness, respect, and love.
When one partner becomes addicted to pornography, it can lead to a breakdown in trust and intimacy, as the addicted partner may prefer the virtual world to the real world, leaving their spouse feeling neglected and unimportant.
This can lead to feelings of jealousy, insecurity, and resentment, which can further damage the relationship, as stated by the Islamic scholar, Ibn Taymiyyah:
"The one who is addicted to viewing pornography is neglectful of his wife, and this leads to a decrease in his love for her" (Ibn Taymiyyah).
3- Pornography affects one's spiritual well-being: The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, "The believer's faith increases in proportion to his renunciation of this world and his hope in the Hereafter" (Bukhari).
This Hadith highlights the importance of having a strong faith and hope in the Hereafter. When one becomes addicted to pornography, it can lead to a loss of spiritual values and a decrease in one's faith, as stated by the Islamic scholar, Ibn Qayyim:
"The one who is addicted to viewing pornography is neglectful of his prayer and his fasting, and this leads to a decrease in his faith" (Ibn Qayyim).
4- Seeking help is necessary: The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, "Seek help from Allah and do not lose heart; and if any harm comes to you, it is what Allah has decreed for you; and praise Allah for what He has chosen for you; and the believers will rejoice in what Allah has chosen for you; and do not say: 'If only I had done such and such;' but say: 'Allah willing, I shall do such and such'" (Bukhari).
This Hadith emphasizes the importance of seeking help from Allah and having faith in His decree. If a spouse is struggling with a porn addiction, it is essential to seek help and support from a trusted religious scholar, such as an imam or a counselor, who can provide guidance and advice on how to overcome the addiction, as stated by the Islamic scholar, Ibn Taymiyyah:
"The one who is addicted to viewing pornography should seek help from Allah, repent, and seek forgiveness, and he should avoid places where such images are displayed" (Ibn Taymiyyah).
5- Rebuilding trust and intimacy: The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said, "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best among you to my wives" (Bukhari).
This Hadith emphasizes the importance of treating one's spouse with kindness, respect, and love. Rebuilding trust and intimacy in a marriage affected by porn addiction is a long and difficult process, as stated by the Islamic scholar, Ibn Qayyim:
"The one who is addicted to viewing pornography should seek forgiveness from Allah, repent, and make a concerted effort to rebuild the relationship based on mutual love, respect, and commitment, and he should avoid places where such images are displayed" (Ibn Qayyim).
This process may involve seeking therapy, attending support groups, and making a concerted effort to rebuild the relationship based on mutual love, respect, and commitment, as stated by the Islamic scholar, Ibn Taymiyyah:
"The one who is addicted to viewing pornography should seek help from Allah, repent, and make a concerted effort to rebuild the relationship based on mutual love, respect, and commitment, and he should avoid places where such images are displayed" (Ibn Taymiyyah).
In the end, from an Islamic perspective, porn addiction is a serious issue that affects not just the individual, but also their marriage, their relationship with Allah, their spiritual well-being, trust, intimacy, and their moral values.
By seeking help, repenting, avoiding places where such images are displayed, and making a concerted effort to rebuild the relationship based on mutual love, respect, and commitment, it is possible to overcome the addiction and to strengthen the marriage.
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