🏵️🏵️ Teresa, you've beautifully highlighted the importance of desires and secrets in marriage. However, from an Islamic perspective, there is a more beautiful balance between openness and intimacy while preserving the sanctity of relationships.

The Quran advises husbands and wives to maintain their intimacy with each other, saying, "And of His signs is that He created for you mates from yourselves that you may find repose in them; and He put between you affection and mercy; in that are signs for a people who reflect." ( Quran 30:21)

It is also narrated through Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) that The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "A woman's happiness is in her husband, so be good to her, and do not make her miserable. If you make her miserable, Allah the Most High will make her a cause of misery for you." (Bukhari)

However, the key here is balance and understanding. As you've said, "When both partners have a clear understanding and mutual respect, there is no room for secrecy." This is where open communication comes into play.

The Quran advises husbands and wives, "Live with them in kindness." (Quran 4:19) This kindness should manifest in mutual openness, trust, and respect.

Teresa, it's wonderful to see you emphasize the importance of desires and secrets in marriage. I hope this adds depth to the discussion and encourages further exploration.

Best, Mohamed, Ph.D

May we strive for that balance of love, openness, and respect that brings true fulfillment to our relationships.